Is Romance Devolving?—50 Shades vs. No One Puts Baby in a Corner

Kristen makes excellent points in her blog post and I thought it worth sharing today. I admire her for tackling this subject, knowing that she might well receive a lot of backlash in posted comments and being confident enough to state her views anyway. Opening dialogue is good if it means that the people conversing are actually listening to each other.
Thanks, Kristen, for sharing your thoughts on this hot topic.

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I’d hoped I wouldn’t have to go here, but alas, here we are. Today, 50 Shades of Grey the MOVIE will open for…*record screech* Valentine’s Day. Nothing says I love you like predatory emotional manipulation, sociopathy, abuse and non-consensual sex acts.

Find THAT on a Hallmark card.

And yes, I know there have been other kinky books like this, but 50 Shades sold over 100 million copies and the movie (despite ZERO plot) is expected to gross in excess of $60 million which means I just threw up a little in my mouth this “story” has tipped from fringe to mainstream and that scares me more than a little bit.

No, I didn’t read the book. I don’t need to. Nor do I need to watch gang-rape prison porn to know it probably is unhealthy for the future of women (or even men)…

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3 thoughts on “Is Romance Devolving?—50 Shades vs. No One Puts Baby in a Corner

  1. I agree with you, Sylvia. Young girls are reading this kind of stuff and I would hate for them to think that this is the “new normal.” As for releasing the movie for Valentines Day, it’s not my idea of romance!

  2. I’m just curious about one thing – she says she hasn’t read the book (because she ‘didn’t have to’), and then indicates it contains “predatory emotional manipulation, sociopathy, abuse and non-consensual sex acts” … how can you know what is in a book without reading it? – if you get your information from someone else who also hasn’t read it, then it’s just passing on that person’s opinions of what they might have heard from someone else.

    I haven’t read it either, but I’m thinking I might need to, since I’m hearing (and reading) so many disparate reviews of the subject – from total denounciation to embracing it for dealing with women’s growing awareness of their own sexuality … in fact I watched a documentary just last night on that very topic, where the book was mentioned as a ‘breakthrough’ in allowing women to explore and appreciate their own sexuality.

    Many of us were raised in an atmosphere that told us “good girls don’t … and if they do, then they’re not supposed to like it”. I don’t see that as healthy at all, but unfortunately that mindset still seems to be prevalent It it gradually changing, but it’s slow progress.

    So, do I like the book’s contents? Do I agree or disagree with it? I have no way of knowing, because I HAVEN’T READ IT. And I prefer to base my opinions on my own research, rather than on what someone else says it is, or should be.

    So, I guess I just might have to order it, just to find out what I think of it.

    1. Sharon, don’t order it because I have it and have read it and will lend it to you.

      I found that it wasn’t easy to read the entire book because I thought the writing was poor, the plot was thin and the character development was almost non-existent, but I read it to the end hoping to discover that I would find value in it somewhere. Unfortunately I didn’t.

      I would also say that I think opinions about a series can be thoughtfully expressed without the person having read the books–there are plenty of articles about them for research fodder, and hey–you just wrote about them, right? 😃

      My concern, though, isn’t about adults reading the books or seeing the movies– go for it–but I have heard from educators that young girls ages 10-13 are reading them and I do wonder about that. What frame of reference do they have to judge whether this is what they should expect (or deserve) when they forge sexual relationships in the future? Will they think that abuse is normal and if they put up with it long enough and are good enough and strong enough they will be able to change the person abusing them? I don’t know.

      But that’s just my opinion, for sure. 😌 Thanks for reading and commenting. I figured this reblog would spark good dialogue.

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